Balancing Being & Doing: How to Quiet Your Mind.

Hello Doer,

How are you ‘being’ today?

In this blog, you will find out:

1. Exactly what you are doing when you are ‘being.’

2. How to access your thoughts and;

3. How to silence your thoughts by ‘being.’

BEING+DOING=QUIET

Unbalanced Doing

This is when your ‘being mind' is in a doing mode. This leads to thinking errors that can trigger the fight, flight, or freeze response, releasing stress hormones in the body. Understandably, the 'being mind' is known for slipping into doing mode in protecting you and ensuring your existence. The lack of skills to identify, access, and change these thoughts can cause you to do most things and act from a state of emotional agitation.

Accessing Your Thoughts

Your thoughts are mental images. Either present or imagined. Your assumptions, beliefs, and opinions are forming the sounds that come within you.

Both the mental pictures and noises are known as your thoughts, which you can identify and access. As a human, you are a thinking and behavioral being (A Doer). In using the cognitive-behavioral model (Your thoughts create your feelings and actions), when you are ‘being,’ you are observing your thoughts, either internally or externally, and feeling neutral in stopping your thoughts from controlling you.

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What exactly are you doing when you are ‘BEING’?

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The Being Mind

Being is when the mind is intentionally quiet. It is the moment you silence your mind, are fully present, and are ready to experience your existence. It is a continuous and conscious process. Sometimes, it can be challenging to observe the mental images in the mind simply; or unlearn what has been sensed or proven to be a ‘fact’ without switching on the sound (making judgments). However, learning to switch off the mental sound is the first step in learning to ‘BE.’

How to ‘BE.’ Silencing your Thoughts.

I believe there are 2 ways to approach how to detach yourself from your thoughts.

1. Turn off the Visual Imagery

2. Turn off the Auditory Imagery

You can purposely switch off the mental images and sounds, using three simple steps. The process requires focused attention, using controlled deep, slow breaths, and a body scan. It isn’t magic as It requires some mental power, especially if you are used to the Habit of Unbalanced Doing.

Turn off the Visual Imagery

1. Intention: Set your intention. What do you want to achieve? To change the image in your mind.

2. Attention: What is the image? Identify the image.

3. Permission: Allow yourself to think blank on purpose gently. This can be thinking into the void. A plain black or white image will suffice.

Alternatively, you can just observe the mental pictures. Stripping all meanings, labeling, titles, categorizing, judgments, and complaining off what you are thinking. This can be more challenging but possible, like a newborn child that has no meaning for everything.

Turn off the Auditory Imagery

The same process applies to turning off the mental sound.

1. Intention: Set your intention. What do you want to achieve? To quiet your mind.

2. Attention: Give attention to the sound when identifying what you want to intrude.

3. Permission: Allow yourself to interrupt gently. Intentionally talk to yourself, switching on your blank imagery, and applying meaning. Use a statement such as ‘Just Being,’ ‘That is Enough!’ or ‘STOP!’

The two tips work simultaneously. It depends on your situation, and physiology as these are interconnected with your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Importantly, for this to work, you have to ensure that there is no exposure to real danger or physical harm.

Balancing Being and Doing

Being is not about feeling positive or negative. Being is a mental process that requires you to gently interrupt the unknown part of the mind from its involuntary and undesired ‘Doing.’

It is a feeling of neutrality, a way of living that requires intentional balanced way of thinking.

It helps removes psychological blocks that create unpleasant feelings such as fear, anger, and anxiety in allowing creative thinking and productive behaviours.

When you are BEING, you are effectively saving mental energy, calming the emotional center of your brain while resting your mind.

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Balancing Being & Doing: The ONE Thing You MUST Do To Know Your Mind & FREE Yourself Indefinitely.

Hello Doer,

How are you 'BEING' today?

In this blog, you will find out:

1. What is the ‘Being Mind’?

2. What is the state of ‘Being’?

BEING + DOING = ATTENTION

Speaking of uncertainty, the COVID 19 virus has brought about excessive doubts. Possibly severe stress, chronic depression, and anxiety for most people around the world.

Unbalanced Doing

It is acceptable to be concerned about this crisis. It is unarguably a life-threatening situation. From time to time, the ‘being mind’ will want to ‘Do’ and can easily slip into ‘doing’ mode in controlling you.

This is how the mind is designed, especially when a threat is believed to be perceived. As a result, all human beings have “thinking errors.” I refer to this as “unbalanced doing” in the absence of actual threats or danger.

The Being Mind

The human brain is very complicated for me to divide its functions into ‘Being’ & ‘Doing.’ Maybe you would agree that every part of the human body continues to function deserves to rest at some point. The primitive “reptilian” brain is a vital functioning part that ensures your survival.

The process of calming this part of the brain is why I named it the “Being Mind.” The whole complex area is involved with different emotions, memory, and attention, and for it to function, it requires tranquillity.

The human brain does not like "the unknown" or uncertainty. It feeds off information from the environment for your survival. For most people, the ‘being’ mind is doing even more now in the crisis than ever before. The incomplete, unfamiliar, and overloading information could bring it into anxiety “fight or flight” mode and cause some form of physiological block.

It is probably making assumptions and looking for all the possible things that could go wrong as a result of this situation.

You will find that you keep asking yourself unhelpful and unsolvable problem-creating questions.

When the 'Being Mind' is doing, it makes it impossible for the actual 'Doing Mind' to function.

The psychological blocks that comprise your thought process become irrational and fixed. Your thought process goes around in a loop, creating the feeling of unease.

This unbalanced doing can increase the level of stress hormone “cortisol” in the body, aggravating your brain, and weakening your immune system. This process ensures the body is more likely to get an infection and other illnesses. It also results in circles of unhelpful ACTs (Anxiety Creating Thoughts) and a series of unpleasant emotions such as sadness, fear, and anger.

Did I hear you say…?

“It is impossible “NOT” to get stressed in this situation.” Yes! That is an example of what the "Being Mind" does. Its favourite word is “NOT.”

I know this because I have suffered from stress and anxiety in the past. Now, when I start feeling some signs of uneasiness, I have identified that my thoughts are filled with statements like:

I am NOT… I can NOT… I do NOT… I will NOT… I should NOT…

Do any of these sound familiar? How does it make you feel when you have a “NOT” thought?

When I am starting to feel concerned in a particular situation, now, I know where to ‘BE’ within myself to attain clarity of the mind. 'BEING'

What is Being?

According to my experience, a state of 'Being' is the moment the mind quietens down, freely experiencing its present existence. Unfortunately, some people miss out on experiencing this transformative feeling of freedom in their lifetime. Being is:

1. The process of existing in the present moment.

2. The foundation of life and the secret to living.

3. The opposite of doing. The basic instinct.

4. The beginning and the end. It conquers all fears.

5. The feeling of nothing and everything.

6. The home of acceptance and resting place of the mind.

7. The silencer of your undesired and involuntary thoughts.

8. The most effective emotional processor.

9. Proactive, patient, and can feel at ease.

10. Something that knows no preference, yet it feels welcoming and pleasant.

11. The root of freedom and happiness.

12. A means of knowing. The key to learning and unlearning.

13. The answer to all your wants.

14. The moments that supported you in acquiring the knowledge you had gained to date, including the first time you learned your name as a child.

15. A way of life and a natural ability buried and lost in the form of “simply” doing.

16. The moment that stops everything, including the worries about the unknown.

17. Those moments you stayed attentive, truly listened and truly experienced.

18. The timeless moment free of suffering and filled with calmness.

19. Where true love is made, the connection with self and others.

20. The feeling of Neutrality. It is judgment-free.

21. Access to the state of thinking 'DOING.'

22. What gives the courage to become whoever or whatever you want to become.

23. What provides the strength to persist in doing whatever you want to do.

24. It perceives dearest memories and releases the past.

25. The energy saver.

Balancing Your Being & Doing

The state of 'BEING' is the one thing you can do to know your mind in understanding yourself. It requires presence and focused attention. Free yourself and take advantage of your most valuable asset. Your MIND! Acknowledge and embrace what is within your control right now and depart from what is outside your control. For your emotional part of the mind to learn to ‘BE,’ the process requires conscious awareness in interrupting and stilling your thoughts.

When you are truly 'BEING' you are present, you listen with no judgement, and you will feel and be able to think intentionally, deciding whether or not to move towards appropriate action. The intentional part of the process is what I call 'DOING.' This way, you can balance your being with whatever you choose to do.

What will it take you to learn to ‘BE’ yourself?

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Balancing Being & Doing - How to Identify Your Unhelpful Thoughts 'DOING.'

Hello Doer,

How are you “BEING” today?

In this blog, you will find out:

1. What is Unbalanced Doing?

2. The Two Parts of the Mind.

3. Balancing Your Being & Doing.

BEING + DOING = BALANCE

Have you ever thought,

“What makes you keep doing things that you find it hard to stop and simply BE?”

My answer is what I call Unbalanced Doing, also known as DOING, DOING.

As you know, all your doing starts with your thoughts, which is a mental process. Therefore, doing, in this case refers to each of your thoughts.

What is UNBALANCED DOING?

Unbalanced doing is when you allow and act upon your unconscious and unhelpful thoughts or beliefs.

When you are used to the HABIT of UNBALANCED DOING,

1. You are doing inside (mentally) and outside (acting) at the same time working both the emotional and the thinking mind at once.

2. Believe most of your thoughts (helpful or unhelpful) without paying attention, staying in the present moment, or being curious, thinking, and seeing the relationships between occurring events.

3. Reactive to things, rather than being proactive.

Think Mind (Thinking and Emotional)

Human beings, with their advanced and sophisticated brains, are born "Doers." They are both thinking (psychologically) and behavioural (physically) organisms, which requires both the emotional and thinking parts of the mind. I mean, you all have got here by doing. You have started doing things since you were conceived and continue to do more until you lose balance. It begins with a loss of awareness, enjoyment, time, interest, or else you are clinically proven to be unable to function.

Have you ever thought,

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What makes you ‘Do’ and continue to ‘Do’ more until you lose balance, slowly making your wellbeing worse?

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Do, More Doing, Complex Doing

The habit of doing things is created and starts in your mind. Throughout billions of years, the human brain has evolved from merely figuring out simple tasks such as:

1. What to eat and where to get it. (Pleasure)

2. What is going to eat you and what to do to stay away from it. (Threat)

The Two Parts of Your Mind

The Thinking Mind

Nowadays, the known brilliant part of your mind is capable of more complex, creative thinking, and skills that have advanced modern ways of living. Human beings, in comparison to other animals, have and can develop sophisticated ways of doing things that have improved education, science, technologies, engineering, arts, etc. which is processed by the 'Executive Function,' the higher, thinking part of the brain.

The Emotional Mind

These new complicated thoughts have left the marvellous unknown part of the mind more confused. When your mind is left unmanaged, it can sometimes bring about distortions, complicated feelings, and counterproductive behaviours.

Despite the higher functioning and advanced human brain, it is interesting how challenging it can be to:

1. Stand back from thinking.

2. Differentiate thoughts from feelings.

3. Distinguish between what you are thinking and what is happening.

Attention

The complicated ways of DOING (thinking, feeling, and acting) boil down to your thoughts about what is being or doing in your presence or imagination. The brain is always searching the environment for pleasure and threat. Most importantly, the next thing that will excite it. Your brain quickly forgets what is right in front of it and loses attention. It has a habit of jumping to conclusions and leaving you with confusion!

Meaning

The way you think makes all the difference to your wellbeing and your way of living. The irresistible urge to derive unhelpful meanings, e.g., using language to interpret what you believe you know, or draw conclusions out of the unknown, can affect your way of thinking, feeling, and acting. The mind can easily lose focus, reacting, and making judgements while leaving you with doubts, insecurity, and indecisiveness.

Habits

Unchallenged unhelpful thoughts are a habit we take from childhood. I believe that I was not taught how to simply “BE” as a young child. The same goes for most young people, which leads to the habit of unbalanced doing. I was also led to believe that external circumstances alone caused my feelings and actions. This was one of the most detrimental self-defeating beliefs in creating problems.

The continuous habits of doing using both parts of the mind (Thinking and Emotional) can be devastating, leading to thinking errors and reoccurring unpleasant emotions. The result for functioning individuals like yourself can be stressful, with constant unpleasant feelings of sadness, jealousy, guilt, shame, fear, and mild anxiety. Ongoing unhealthy doing that causes re-occurrence of these feelings can lead to clinical psychological wellbeing issues such as severe anxiety and depression.

Balancing Your Being and Doing

What you can do to identify, challenge and change your unhelpful thoughts is to balance your 'BEING' with whatever you are 'DOING.' Both parts of the mind are continually doing, and by being, you will have the power to observe your thoughts with a feeling of neutrality and not getting attached. The emotional mind needs to “BE” to work in harmony with the thinking mind (doing mind). In doing so, it will give you the feeling of control, composure, and confidence in all your endeavours. You will feel balanced, healthy, and yet be more productive.

In using this simple technique, it saved me lots of energy and made me feel liberated, happy while becoming more productive. For you to stop the habit of unbalanced doing, you want to develop the skills of balancing both parts (thinking and emotional) of your mind, BALANCING BEING & DOING. I understand that no one taught you how to be, but here is your chance to educate yourself.

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