Mind Emotional Nurturing | Being Capable | Balancing Your Being & Doing

Hello Doer,

How are you 'being' today?

In this blog, you will find out what you are capable of doing.

Doing, in this case, means intentional thinking.

BEING = DOING = CAPABLE

Unbalanced Doing

This is when you believe your unhelpful thoughts about NOT being able to think about what you want to do and make decisions about the smalls steps to follow up.

Understandably, your ‘being mind’ is claiming you lack the skills to apply your human intelligence, the attention or opportunity required to learn, or do what you want. This part of your brain honestly doesn’t know. It perceives learning new skills as a threat, especially if the result is not immediate pleasure. It can be reactive, impatient, and wants a fast outcome.

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What are you capable of doing (thinking) in finding your #HERBS to a healthy and fulfilling day?

Happiness, Energy, Resilience, Balance, Self-sufficiency

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The Being Mind

Okay, maybe you lack individual skills for now, and you are willing to develop them. As a baby, you learned how to walk, a new language, and other things you had no idea you could do while your thinking brain (doing mind) was still developing.

In observing my daughter, it is clear that the ‘Being’ mode is the state you mostly were as a baby. What you did most of that time as a baby was listening, observing, and accepting your thoughts in the present moment. Not knowing the name or meaning for what you might be experiencing helps you to be open to learning and neutral about what it is that you were interested in learning while approaching them with curiosity. You paid attention and might have enjoyed the process while uncertain what the result would be. This gives you a feeling of courage and confidence without being judgemental about your potential.

Balancing Being and Doing

The ‘being mind’ is mostly used as a child, and as you start to learn to think (do). The ‘being mind' can learn and get used to taking shortcuts while the ‘doing mind’ is developing. Through this process, the being mind drives into doing mode, making judgments with no or little evidence. Most individuals develop the habit of unbalanced doing, which can make them FEEL like they are powerless about their thoughts, while believing their unhelpful thoughts, avoid learning new skills, and give up.

But thinking about it logically with the evidence that others can access helpful thoughts the majority of the time while experiencing pleasant emotions. YOU KNOW YOU CAN! There is so much a child can do with their developing ‘doing mind,’ and abundance of possibilities as adults, once the brain has fully developed.

Whatever you want to become, to be, or to do is created by your thought. Your thought creates your feeling and action. If you're going to ‘be able,’ ‘be talented,’ and ‘capable of possessing’ any useful and productive skills, in feeling the way you want, accessing and changing your thoughts; first you want to learn to ‘BE’ and then balance your being with your ‘doing.’

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Balancing Being & Doing: How to Quiet Your Mind.

Hello Doer,

How are you ‘being’ today?

In this blog, you will find out:

1. Exactly what you are doing when you are ‘being.’

2. How to access your thoughts and;

3. How to silence your thoughts by ‘being.’

BEING+DOING=QUIET

Unbalanced Doing

This is when your ‘being mind' is in a doing mode. This leads to thinking errors that can trigger the fight, flight, or freeze response, releasing stress hormones in the body. Understandably, the 'being mind' is known for slipping into doing mode in protecting you and ensuring your existence. The lack of skills to identify, access, and change these thoughts can cause you to do most things and act from a state of emotional agitation.

Accessing Your Thoughts

Your thoughts are mental images. Either present or imagined. Your assumptions, beliefs, and opinions are forming the sounds that come within you.

Both the mental pictures and noises are known as your thoughts, which you can identify and access. As a human, you are a thinking and behavioral being (A Doer). In using the cognitive-behavioral model (Your thoughts create your feelings and actions), when you are ‘being,’ you are observing your thoughts, either internally or externally, and feeling neutral in stopping your thoughts from controlling you.

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What exactly are you doing when you are ‘BEING’?

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The Being Mind

Being is when the mind is intentionally quiet. It is the moment you silence your mind, are fully present, and are ready to experience your existence. It is a continuous and conscious process. Sometimes, it can be challenging to observe the mental images in the mind simply; or unlearn what has been sensed or proven to be a ‘fact’ without switching on the sound (making judgments). However, learning to switch off the mental sound is the first step in learning to ‘BE.’

How to ‘BE.’ Silencing your Thoughts.

I believe there are 2 ways to approach how to detach yourself from your thoughts.

1. Turn off the Visual Imagery

2. Turn off the Auditory Imagery

You can purposely switch off the mental images and sounds, using three simple steps. The process requires focused attention, using controlled deep, slow breaths, and a body scan. It isn’t magic as It requires some mental power, especially if you are used to the Habit of Unbalanced Doing.

Turn off the Visual Imagery

1. Intention: Set your intention. What do you want to achieve? To change the image in your mind.

2. Attention: What is the image? Identify the image.

3. Permission: Allow yourself to think blank on purpose gently. This can be thinking into the void. A plain black or white image will suffice.

Alternatively, you can just observe the mental pictures. Stripping all meanings, labeling, titles, categorizing, judgments, and complaining off what you are thinking. This can be more challenging but possible, like a newborn child that has no meaning for everything.

Turn off the Auditory Imagery

The same process applies to turning off the mental sound.

1. Intention: Set your intention. What do you want to achieve? To quiet your mind.

2. Attention: Give attention to the sound when identifying what you want to intrude.

3. Permission: Allow yourself to interrupt gently. Intentionally talk to yourself, switching on your blank imagery, and applying meaning. Use a statement such as ‘Just Being,’ ‘That is Enough!’ or ‘STOP!’

The two tips work simultaneously. It depends on your situation, and physiology as these are interconnected with your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Importantly, for this to work, you have to ensure that there is no exposure to real danger or physical harm.

Balancing Being and Doing

Being is not about feeling positive or negative. Being is a mental process that requires you to gently interrupt the unknown part of the mind from its involuntary and undesired ‘Doing.’

It is a feeling of neutrality, a way of living that requires intentional balanced way of thinking.

It helps removes psychological blocks that create unpleasant feelings such as fear, anger, and anxiety in allowing creative thinking and productive behaviours.

When you are BEING, you are effectively saving mental energy, calming the emotional center of your brain while resting your mind.

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Balancing Being & Doing: The ONE Thing You MUST Do To Know Your Mind & FREE Yourself Indefinitely.

Hello Doer,

How are you 'BEING' today?

In this blog, you will find out:

1. What is the ‘Being Mind’?

2. What is the state of ‘Being’?

BEING + DOING = ATTENTION

Speaking of uncertainty, the COVID 19 virus has brought about excessive doubts. Possibly severe stress, chronic depression, and anxiety for most people around the world.

Unbalanced Doing

It is acceptable to be concerned about this crisis. It is unarguably a life-threatening situation. From time to time, the ‘being mind’ will want to ‘Do’ and can easily slip into ‘doing’ mode in controlling you.

This is how the mind is designed, especially when a threat is believed to be perceived. As a result, all human beings have “thinking errors.” I refer to this as “unbalanced doing” in the absence of actual threats or danger.

The Being Mind

The human brain is very complicated for me to divide its functions into ‘Being’ & ‘Doing.’ Maybe you would agree that every part of the human body continues to function deserves to rest at some point. The primitive “reptilian” brain is a vital functioning part that ensures your survival.

The process of calming this part of the brain is why I named it the “Being Mind.” The whole complex area is involved with different emotions, memory, and attention, and for it to function, it requires tranquillity.

The human brain does not like "the unknown" or uncertainty. It feeds off information from the environment for your survival. For most people, the ‘being’ mind is doing even more now in the crisis than ever before. The incomplete, unfamiliar, and overloading information could bring it into anxiety “fight or flight” mode and cause some form of physiological block.

It is probably making assumptions and looking for all the possible things that could go wrong as a result of this situation.

You will find that you keep asking yourself unhelpful and unsolvable problem-creating questions.

When the 'Being Mind' is doing, it makes it impossible for the actual 'Doing Mind' to function.

The psychological blocks that comprise your thought process become irrational and fixed. Your thought process goes around in a loop, creating the feeling of unease.

This unbalanced doing can increase the level of stress hormone “cortisol” in the body, aggravating your brain, and weakening your immune system. This process ensures the body is more likely to get an infection and other illnesses. It also results in circles of unhelpful ACTs (Anxiety Creating Thoughts) and a series of unpleasant emotions such as sadness, fear, and anger.

Did I hear you say…?

“It is impossible “NOT” to get stressed in this situation.” Yes! That is an example of what the "Being Mind" does. Its favourite word is “NOT.”

I know this because I have suffered from stress and anxiety in the past. Now, when I start feeling some signs of uneasiness, I have identified that my thoughts are filled with statements like:

I am NOT… I can NOT… I do NOT… I will NOT… I should NOT…

Do any of these sound familiar? How does it make you feel when you have a “NOT” thought?

When I am starting to feel concerned in a particular situation, now, I know where to ‘BE’ within myself to attain clarity of the mind. 'BEING'

What is Being?

According to my experience, a state of 'Being' is the moment the mind quietens down, freely experiencing its present existence. Unfortunately, some people miss out on experiencing this transformative feeling of freedom in their lifetime. Being is:

1. The process of existing in the present moment.

2. The foundation of life and the secret to living.

3. The opposite of doing. The basic instinct.

4. The beginning and the end. It conquers all fears.

5. The feeling of nothing and everything.

6. The home of acceptance and resting place of the mind.

7. The silencer of your undesired and involuntary thoughts.

8. The most effective emotional processor.

9. Proactive, patient, and can feel at ease.

10. Something that knows no preference, yet it feels welcoming and pleasant.

11. The root of freedom and happiness.

12. A means of knowing. The key to learning and unlearning.

13. The answer to all your wants.

14. The moments that supported you in acquiring the knowledge you had gained to date, including the first time you learned your name as a child.

15. A way of life and a natural ability buried and lost in the form of “simply” doing.

16. The moment that stops everything, including the worries about the unknown.

17. Those moments you stayed attentive, truly listened and truly experienced.

18. The timeless moment free of suffering and filled with calmness.

19. Where true love is made, the connection with self and others.

20. The feeling of Neutrality. It is judgment-free.

21. Access to the state of thinking 'DOING.'

22. What gives the courage to become whoever or whatever you want to become.

23. What provides the strength to persist in doing whatever you want to do.

24. It perceives dearest memories and releases the past.

25. The energy saver.

Balancing Your Being & Doing

The state of 'BEING' is the one thing you can do to know your mind in understanding yourself. It requires presence and focused attention. Free yourself and take advantage of your most valuable asset. Your MIND! Acknowledge and embrace what is within your control right now and depart from what is outside your control. For your emotional part of the mind to learn to ‘BE,’ the process requires conscious awareness in interrupting and stilling your thoughts.

When you are truly 'BEING' you are present, you listen with no judgement, and you will feel and be able to think intentionally, deciding whether or not to move towards appropriate action. The intentional part of the process is what I call 'DOING.' This way, you can balance your being with whatever you choose to do.

What will it take you to learn to ‘BE’ yourself?

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