Balancing Being & Doing: The ONE Thing You MUST Do To Know Your Mind & FREE Yourself Indefinitely.

Hello Doer,

How are you 'BEING' today?

In this blog, you will find out:

1. What is the ‘Being Mind’?

2. What is the state of ‘Being’?

BEING + DOING = ATTENTION

Speaking of uncertainty, the COVID 19 virus has brought about excessive doubts. Possibly severe stress, chronic depression, and anxiety for most people around the world.

Unbalanced Doing

It is acceptable to be concerned about this crisis. It is unarguably a life-threatening situation. From time to time, the ‘being mind’ will want to ‘Do’ and can easily slip into ‘doing’ mode in controlling you.

This is how the mind is designed, especially when a threat is believed to be perceived. As a result, all human beings have “thinking errors.” I refer to this as “unbalanced doing” in the absence of actual threats or danger.

The Being Mind

The human brain is very complicated for me to divide its functions into ‘Being’ & ‘Doing.’ Maybe you would agree that every part of the human body continues to function deserves to rest at some point. The primitive “reptilian” brain is a vital functioning part that ensures your survival.

The process of calming this part of the brain is why I named it the “Being Mind.” The whole complex area is involved with different emotions, memory, and attention, and for it to function, it requires tranquillity.

The human brain does not like "the unknown" or uncertainty. It feeds off information from the environment for your survival. For most people, the ‘being’ mind is doing even more now in the crisis than ever before. The incomplete, unfamiliar, and overloading information could bring it into anxiety “fight or flight” mode and cause some form of physiological block.

It is probably making assumptions and looking for all the possible things that could go wrong as a result of this situation.

You will find that you keep asking yourself unhelpful and unsolvable problem-creating questions.

When the 'Being Mind' is doing, it makes it impossible for the actual 'Doing Mind' to function.

The psychological blocks that comprise your thought process become irrational and fixed. Your thought process goes around in a loop, creating the feeling of unease.

This unbalanced doing can increase the level of stress hormone “cortisol” in the body, aggravating your brain, and weakening your immune system. This process ensures the body is more likely to get an infection and other illnesses. It also results in circles of unhelpful ACTs (Anxiety Creating Thoughts) and a series of unpleasant emotions such as sadness, fear, and anger.

Did I hear you say…?

“It is impossible “NOT” to get stressed in this situation.” Yes! That is an example of what the "Being Mind" does. Its favourite word is “NOT.”

I know this because I have suffered from stress and anxiety in the past. Now, when I start feeling some signs of uneasiness, I have identified that my thoughts are filled with statements like:

I am NOT… I can NOT… I do NOT… I will NOT… I should NOT…

Do any of these sound familiar? How does it make you feel when you have a “NOT” thought?

When I am starting to feel concerned in a particular situation, now, I know where to ‘BE’ within myself to attain clarity of the mind. 'BEING'

What is Being?

According to my experience, a state of 'Being' is the moment the mind quietens down, freely experiencing its present existence. Unfortunately, some people miss out on experiencing this transformative feeling of freedom in their lifetime. Being is:

1. The process of existing in the present moment.

2. The foundation of life and the secret to living.

3. The opposite of doing. The basic instinct.

4. The beginning and the end. It conquers all fears.

5. The feeling of nothing and everything.

6. The home of acceptance and resting place of the mind.

7. The silencer of your undesired and involuntary thoughts.

8. The most effective emotional processor.

9. Proactive, patient, and can feel at ease.

10. Something that knows no preference, yet it feels welcoming and pleasant.

11. The root of freedom and happiness.

12. A means of knowing. The key to learning and unlearning.

13. The answer to all your wants.

14. The moments that supported you in acquiring the knowledge you had gained to date, including the first time you learned your name as a child.

15. A way of life and a natural ability buried and lost in the form of “simply” doing.

16. The moment that stops everything, including the worries about the unknown.

17. Those moments you stayed attentive, truly listened and truly experienced.

18. The timeless moment free of suffering and filled with calmness.

19. Where true love is made, the connection with self and others.

20. The feeling of Neutrality. It is judgment-free.

21. Access to the state of thinking 'DOING.'

22. What gives the courage to become whoever or whatever you want to become.

23. What provides the strength to persist in doing whatever you want to do.

24. It perceives dearest memories and releases the past.

25. The energy saver.

Balancing Your Being & Doing

The state of 'BEING' is the one thing you can do to know your mind in understanding yourself. It requires presence and focused attention. Free yourself and take advantage of your most valuable asset. Your MIND! Acknowledge and embrace what is within your control right now and depart from what is outside your control. For your emotional part of the mind to learn to ‘BE,’ the process requires conscious awareness in interrupting and stilling your thoughts.

When you are truly 'BEING' you are present, you listen with no judgement, and you will feel and be able to think intentionally, deciding whether or not to move towards appropriate action. The intentional part of the process is what I call 'DOING.' This way, you can balance your being with whatever you choose to do.

What will it take you to learn to ‘BE’ yourself?

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Balancing Being & Doing - How to Identify Your Unhelpful Thoughts 'DOING.'

Hello Doer,

How are you “BEING” today?

In this blog, you will find out:

1. What is Unbalanced Doing?

2. The Two Parts of the Mind.

3. Balancing Your Being & Doing.

BEING + DOING = BALANCE

Have you ever thought,

“What makes you keep doing things that you find it hard to stop and simply BE?”

My answer is what I call Unbalanced Doing, also known as DOING, DOING.

As you know, all your doing starts with your thoughts, which is a mental process. Therefore, doing, in this case refers to each of your thoughts.

What is UNBALANCED DOING?

Unbalanced doing is when you allow and act upon your unconscious and unhelpful thoughts or beliefs.

When you are used to the HABIT of UNBALANCED DOING,

1. You are doing inside (mentally) and outside (acting) at the same time working both the emotional and the thinking mind at once.

2. Believe most of your thoughts (helpful or unhelpful) without paying attention, staying in the present moment, or being curious, thinking, and seeing the relationships between occurring events.

3. Reactive to things, rather than being proactive.

Think Mind (Thinking and Emotional)

Human beings, with their advanced and sophisticated brains, are born "Doers." They are both thinking (psychologically) and behavioural (physically) organisms, which requires both the emotional and thinking parts of the mind. I mean, you all have got here by doing. You have started doing things since you were conceived and continue to do more until you lose balance. It begins with a loss of awareness, enjoyment, time, interest, or else you are clinically proven to be unable to function.

Have you ever thought,

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What makes you ‘Do’ and continue to ‘Do’ more until you lose balance, slowly making your wellbeing worse?

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Do, More Doing, Complex Doing

The habit of doing things is created and starts in your mind. Throughout billions of years, the human brain has evolved from merely figuring out simple tasks such as:

1. What to eat and where to get it. (Pleasure)

2. What is going to eat you and what to do to stay away from it. (Threat)

The Two Parts of Your Mind

The Thinking Mind

Nowadays, the known brilliant part of your mind is capable of more complex, creative thinking, and skills that have advanced modern ways of living. Human beings, in comparison to other animals, have and can develop sophisticated ways of doing things that have improved education, science, technologies, engineering, arts, etc. which is processed by the 'Executive Function,' the higher, thinking part of the brain.

The Emotional Mind

These new complicated thoughts have left the marvellous unknown part of the mind more confused. When your mind is left unmanaged, it can sometimes bring about distortions, complicated feelings, and counterproductive behaviours.

Despite the higher functioning and advanced human brain, it is interesting how challenging it can be to:

1. Stand back from thinking.

2. Differentiate thoughts from feelings.

3. Distinguish between what you are thinking and what is happening.

Attention

The complicated ways of DOING (thinking, feeling, and acting) boil down to your thoughts about what is being or doing in your presence or imagination. The brain is always searching the environment for pleasure and threat. Most importantly, the next thing that will excite it. Your brain quickly forgets what is right in front of it and loses attention. It has a habit of jumping to conclusions and leaving you with confusion!

Meaning

The way you think makes all the difference to your wellbeing and your way of living. The irresistible urge to derive unhelpful meanings, e.g., using language to interpret what you believe you know, or draw conclusions out of the unknown, can affect your way of thinking, feeling, and acting. The mind can easily lose focus, reacting, and making judgements while leaving you with doubts, insecurity, and indecisiveness.

Habits

Unchallenged unhelpful thoughts are a habit we take from childhood. I believe that I was not taught how to simply “BE” as a young child. The same goes for most young people, which leads to the habit of unbalanced doing. I was also led to believe that external circumstances alone caused my feelings and actions. This was one of the most detrimental self-defeating beliefs in creating problems.

The continuous habits of doing using both parts of the mind (Thinking and Emotional) can be devastating, leading to thinking errors and reoccurring unpleasant emotions. The result for functioning individuals like yourself can be stressful, with constant unpleasant feelings of sadness, jealousy, guilt, shame, fear, and mild anxiety. Ongoing unhealthy doing that causes re-occurrence of these feelings can lead to clinical psychological wellbeing issues such as severe anxiety and depression.

Balancing Your Being and Doing

What you can do to identify, challenge and change your unhelpful thoughts is to balance your 'BEING' with whatever you are 'DOING.' Both parts of the mind are continually doing, and by being, you will have the power to observe your thoughts with a feeling of neutrality and not getting attached. The emotional mind needs to “BE” to work in harmony with the thinking mind (doing mind). In doing so, it will give you the feeling of control, composure, and confidence in all your endeavours. You will feel balanced, healthy, and yet be more productive.

In using this simple technique, it saved me lots of energy and made me feel liberated, happy while becoming more productive. For you to stop the habit of unbalanced doing, you want to develop the skills of balancing both parts (thinking and emotional) of your mind, BALANCING BEING & DOING. I understand that no one taught you how to be, but here is your chance to educate yourself.

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The Being & Doing Organ: How Your Brain Processes Information in Creating Thought, Feeling & Action.

Hello Doer,

How are you "BEING" Today?

This blog aims to briefly;

1. Introduce and explain the functions of the 3 main areas of the brain.

2. What happens within these parts in connecting your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.

3. How the brain senses and perceives information.

BEING + DONG = AWARENESS

The 3 Parts of the Human Brain

1. The Hindbrain

2. The Midbrain

3. The Forebrain

The Hindbrain

The brain’s survival relies on a continuous stream of information from both the body and the environment. Too little or too much information determines the persons’ feeling, physiology, facial expression and behaviour at a given time.

The oldest part of the brain (also known as the primitive brain, reptilian brain, or lizard brain) includes the brain stem, the basal ganglia, and the midbrain. This is the part of the brain that human beings share with other mammals.

The hindbrain connects to the Cerebellum in coordinating and controlling the body movement. The hindbrain and the midbrain forms the “root” of the brain, and they are involved in the unconscious and automatic processes required for human survival.

The MidBrain

The Midbrain also is known as the “Emotional Centre” or “Limbic System.” Neuroscientists have shown that this complicated mid part of the brain region (limbic system) fills our thoughts with different emotions. We feel emotions in the brain, and various brain centres support mixed feelings.

The Amygdala

The amygdala sits as part of the limbic system act as an "alarm centre," thus preparing the body for a fight or flight response if it creates the feeling of fear and anger. The "Fight or Flight" mode is part of humans' survival instincts shaped by millennia of evolution. The neurotransmitters and hormones in our body cause automatic bodily responses to different emotions.

Scientists have branched the typical unconscious responses (Automatic Nervous System) into two sets called:

1. "Fight or flight" Responses that prepare the body for a reaction in the face of danger (Sympathetic Nervous Response).

2. "Rest and Digest" Responses are what happens to the body when it produces a calm and relaxed feeling in the mind, using energy saved up for digesting food. It is when the body relaxes and enjoys the pleasure when people are not facing threatening or dangerous situations (Parasympathetic Nervous Response).

The brain, as the control centre of the nervous system, releases appropriate neuro-chemicals based on information sent in response to a particular stimulus. It works with other organs in the body, each playing a specific role in preparing a person to flee or fight in response to a perceived threat to survival. It works in harmony with the physiological reaction and emotional facial expression displayed.

The "Stress Hormone"

The unpleasant feeling of the chemical release of cortisol prepares the body for a fight or flight response. It has a powerful impact on the higher functioning part of the brain (hence, the emotional part of the brain becomes instinctive and quickly takes over the rational thinking brain). The release of the chemicals’ response produced by epinephrine or adrenalin makes the mind hold on to emotive memories that might have triggered it. The emotional centre of the brain is highly in use, focusing on the perceived threat while shutting down the rational thinking part of the mind.

Other areas of the Limbic System include

• Thalamus: This is the primary "Hub" for receiving sensory information to and from the thinking brain (besides the sense of smell). It helps keep us awake, fall asleep, and gives us our sense of awareness.

• Hypothalamus: This helps regulate body condition. It produces hormones that control body temperature, sleep, and moods, as well as sexual responses. It secretes chemicals that create emotions of pleasure and misery.

• Hippocampus: This links to our memory, moods, and self-control. It stores short-term memories (such as learning) and consolidates them into long-term memories.

The Forebrain

The forebrain, also known as “Rational brain,” “The prefrontal cortex,” or "Executive Functions," is located in the Cerebral Cortex (Neocortex). It is unique to humans as it controls higher functions such as conscious decision making, emotions and personality not commonly seen in other species of animals. It is responsible for handling complex skills and complicated thoughts (meanings we attach to things).

The "Feeling-Thinking" Connection: How The Brain Senses and Perceives Information

Thought

What the human senses (sight, touch, taste, hear, smell) is collected in the midbrain (limbic system). If it is not an immediate pain (boiling pot) threat, or pleasure (chocolate), the information collected by the sense organs about the world around us (stimuli) is sent to the thinking brain for processing. The thinking brain will then interpret (our thought) and categorise (threat or pleasure) the information to give us our perception.

Feeling

The meaning the information receives returns to the midbrain (limbic system), creating our feeling (pleasant or unpleasant).

Action

The feeling created will determine the response to the stimulus. Mostly, a pleasant emotion will move you towards the thing or event (approach). With the unpleasant feeling, most people will avoid the situation or object (avoidance).

Think Mind & Emotional Nurturing

Human behaviour emerges from the dynamic interactions between the three parts of the brain, specifically at areas with a high degree of connectivity (the midbrain or the hub). The three areas are interconnected and must work in harmony for the human to feel motivated, energized, and balanced. However, this is not always the case. The higher part of the brain relies on some information from the environment, body, and other parts of the brain.

Information that goes through the consciously controlled part of the brain (Thinking Brain) has several possible outcomes. As a result, you have a choice on what thought to focus on in creating your feeling and action.

The emotional brain nurtures the thinking brain, which shows the strong connection between our thoughts and feelings in response to our actions, creating our results. The thinking mind and the emotional mind both form the two parts of the mysterious, marvellous human mind.

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References

1. David, A. (2019) The Secret Life of the Brain: Unlocking the Mysteries of the Mind

2. McDowell, P. E. (2015) Thinking about Thinking: Cognition, Science, and Psychotherapy

3. Spilsbury, R (2013) Emotions From Birth to Old Age (Your Body for Life)