Mind Emotional Nurturing| Believe in how you want things to BE for you| Balance your Being & Doing

Whatever you do (action or inaction) … Think Mind Emotional Nurturing.

Yes, I believe what will ‘BE’ will ‘BE.’ And yes, you can also contribute and influence some of ‘what’ and ‘how’ things will ‘BE’ (exist) for you using what is within your control (Thought, feeling and action).

Even though most situations might be outside your control and your way of ‘BEING’ is not passive. Where you wait, stop living, and expecting things to happen to you or for you.

Or you believe that your thoughts and emotions merely happen to you and you can do nothing to control them. Your thoughts, feelings, and actions are within your control and have led me to believe that you can do something to ‘BE’ and ‘DO.’

Think Mind Emotional Nurturing

A starting point to let yourself ‘BE’ is to (BE - LIVE) #BELIEVE it's possible;

1. Spend some time to practice sitting through your thoughts and emotions in letting go of Unhelpful #ACTs (Anxiety Creating Thoughts).

2. Unlearn the thoughts of #AIDs ( #Anxiety, #Insecurity, and #Doubts) through Balancing your Being and Doing and creating new ways of thinking in taking control and making new possibilities exist for you.

3. Today, Practice Non-judgmental listening - Step back from your thoughts and just watching them. Notice how those emotions will harmlessly settle down.

#Freeyourself.

Do you want to learn to stop your self-nagging, judgments, and criticisms?

Do you want to learn alternatives and more balanced beliefs in allowing your emotions and making things happen for you?

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Mind Emotional Nurturing | The story you tell yourself | Balancing Your Being & Doing

Whatever you do (action or inaction), Think Mind Emotional Nurturing

I have lost count of how many times I have mentioned to family, friends, and even some of my clients this month ‘It’s the story you tell yourself.’ When they say things to disempower and limit their potentials. I sometimes fall into this trap due to the language I use, but I have developed the awareness to change any unhelpful #ACTs (#Anxiety Creating Thoughts)

Do you believe you cannot cope with the unhelpful negative thoughts you are experiencing and that they will never change?

Yes, in as much as it is sometimes impossible to control the thoughts that come into your mind. You have the ability to identify and modify them. Telling yourself that the unhelpful ACTs (Anxiety Creating Thoughts) are here to stay or acting #powerless, believing that you can do nothing to alter them is precisely the reality you are creating for yourself. Indeed, how the story you tell yourself affects your wellbeing.

#Think #Mind #Emotional #Nurturing

Remember, your thought cause your feeling and action. It is time you start changing your story. You have a choice to think otherwise. Tell yourself the opposite of your unhelpful thought and keep repeating it until you start to believe it. On the other hand, find a middle ground, start with a more realistic and balanced alternative thought between your old unhelpful belief and the new one you want in improving your wellbeing.

Do you want to learn to identify and understand your thinking style?

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#balancingbeingdoing

#intentionalthinking

#aceyourthoughts

#focusawareness

#selfcoaching

#cbt #cbc

Mind Emotional Nurturing | What Type of Thinker are you?| Balancing Your Being & Doing

For you to learn how to think the way you want, first, you need to identify your type of thinking.

Types of Thinking

Using the ABC Cognitive Behavioural Model, there are two distinct types of thinking involving the following:

A – Activating Events (Situation, Circumstance, Triggers, Relationships, and Social Environment)

B – Beliefs and Thoughts

C - Consequences – pleasant or unpleasant feeling / sensation in the body (emotions) - Cognition, Physical reactions , Actions and Inaction

1. A-C Thinking – This is where you believe what is being (things that exist) or what is doing (other people) make you feel and behave in the way that you do.

This thinking pattern makes you feel helpless with substantial limitations. It is a belief that events and others around you control you, and they have to change before you can. Also, you have no control over you.

The belief that external circumstances cause how you feel and act can keep you in a vicious cycle with no rest. This is because things will ‘always’ be happening around you, and this can lead to #stress, #anxiety, or #depression.

2. B-C Thinking – This eliminates the feeling of helplessness associated with the ‘A-C’ Thinking because you understand that YOU determine your feelings and actions, rather than anything external. You realise that the meaning you give to what is being and what is doing, your interpretation of the event, which include your assumptions, opinions, and core beliefs, determine your feelings in creating your reality.

The B-C thinking can make you feel limitless, liberated, and empowered, knowing that you are in control. Yes, you will still have some automatic thoughts (Positive or Negative). However, you remain in control and know you have the power to keep, amend, or reframe from unhelpful #ACTs Anxiety Creating Thoughts.

Think Mind Emotional Nurturing _ How to Think.

1. The Self-Coaching Model: Your thought creates your feeling and action. Taking psychological responsibility and adopting the new belief that while most things might be outside your control, your thoughts, feelings, and actions are within your control.

2. Thinking about Thinking: Spot and start changing your unhelpful beliefs about what you are thinking. Whether you are making it mean something about yourself, others, or the world; dropping it all and #BeingCurious is a helpful start.

3. Think on Purpose: Learn to and match your thought with your feelings, and control your actions using your brain (#Neuroplasticity) in creating feelings of confidence.

You can achieve all this, but first, you want to learn to balance your being and doing.

Let’s talk to find out more!

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Bibliography

Neenan, M. and Palmer, S. (2012) Cognitive Behavioural Coaching in Practice: An Evidence Based Approach London: Routledge